i have been working on the same problem for some time,there definitely is a 3rd party object for mac os,but not for windows.
plugsend~ as well as live.remote~ will introduce around 30 milliseconds of latency,which is too much if you want to actually play your FX.
what i ve been doing in the end is to write a midi-device that sends the incoming midi-data via the udpsend object.
on the "other side" ,it will be received by an udpreceive-object.
it works quite well,you have constantly varying latencies form 1 to around 10 msec, but thats still playable.
if youre interested,i ll post it.