I know this is probably a pretty beaten dead horse, but I feel like I have read everything I could read, tried everything I could try, and still there is no working solution for me.
My plan in the end is to receive a DJ's BPM over a midi cable (or maybe over an ethernet cable [ipMIDI?]), so i can manipulate visuals to the same beat he is playing with.
i added a "change" object for some max patch (attached) I downloaded from these forums on some thread i've already forgotten, but this does work with transmitting the beat. I just would not be sure how to rewire the DJ's Ableton Live into my computer.
I guess a step-by-step instruction is what i'm looking for, because either i'm missing one essential step or my computer is missing some system file for MIDI and is messing everything up.